Tween Cell Phone Agreement
Entertainment – Skip the contract and talk honestly with your child about the responsibility of having a mobile phone. Open up about the actual financial cost of the phone – what were the upfront costs, what are the monthly costs, what are the costs of repairing a phone. Educate yourself and your child about the ins and outs of your mobile phone provider contract. (2) In teens, tweens and mobile phones, Dr. Michael Rubin, a San Francisco Bay-area psychotherapist who has worked with teens for more than 19 years, recommends that teens have a simple cell phone, not a smartphone. Among the reasons he gave? “It`s not uncommon for teenagers to send nude photos of themselves to their friend or girlfriend. What they do not understand is that they are under the age of 18. So if they have a nude photo of their 15-year-old girlfriend, they can be charged with possession of child pornography. A lot of people can say it won`t happen to me, but I`ve had a number of teenagers in psychotherapy because they`ve been accused of child pornography. A contract is like a deal with a teenager: “You (the teenager) do it (behave well on social media) and we (parents) will do it (keep paying for your phone). Deals seemed to work when they were younger (“Eat your green beans and you can have your dessert”), but this phase is over.
You are the parent; You`re not dealing with your tweens and teenagers now. Instead, lead them with confidence, love and reason. Don`t think agreements work for other parents. According to the emails that fill my inbox, parents who make “phone calls” wave a white flag on failed contracts. After trying this incredibly popular tool, many parents discovered that the family`s smartphone contract was not worth the paper it is printed on, nor the great hopes and emotional energy that were invested in it. In fact, it can do more damage than you see. Building good digital citizens does not start with a smartphone contract. So before you print out this contract and call your teen out of bed, from the video game, or away from Snapchat to sign it, you can keep reading. Yes, I know that hundreds of recently developed apps now allow parents to monitor a child`s mobile use – these apps can tell how many times they check their phone or if they look at their phone when they`re behind the wheel; they can send you all the texts he receives (or only those with a list of offensive words) and every page he surfs.